Creating a Tradition of Sportsmanship should be a central goal of any coach – especially Ultimate Frisbee where the spirit of the game is so important. A disturbing trend amongst youth team coaches is their propensity to not only tolerate poor sportsmanship but to actually advocate it. This ‘win at all costs’ mentality needs to be avoided at all costs in children. Failure to do this will create an individual who lies, cheats and steals in order to win. As coaches, we need to instill a winning mentality in our youth but not at the cost of fair play. Here are 10 ways to ensure kids grow up with the right attitude.
1: Being A Good Winner - This is an often overlooked trait and one which merits greater attention. Losing is bad enough but the feelings of sorrow and hurt are only exacerbated by having the winners gloat in your face. Always shake your opponent’s hand and congratulate them on a good game.
2: Taking Defeat Like A Champion - Sulking and throwing your toys out of the pram is not way to accept a loss. Just because you lost a game doesn’t mean you are a ‘loser’ but if you behave in a surly manner, that’s exactly what you will be. The best players in any sport will take defeat graciously, learn from their mistakes and bounce back stronger next time around.
3: Don’t Beat Yourself Up - If you make a mistake, don’t think negative thoughts about yourself and above all, do not insult your team mates. Accept responsibility for your error and move on.
4: Forgive And Forget - In team sports, there will be occasions when a blunder by a team mate costs you glory. Instead of abusing them and making them feel worse, pat them on the back and encourage them to do better next time.
5: Put The Team First - While it is important for each player to establish individual goals, remember that nothing is more important than the welfare of the team. Always look for a team mate in a better position to score rather than trying to claim all the glory for yourself.
6: Respect Your Coach - All coaches know that no player likes being taken out of the game but you cannot throw a tantrum just because you don’t agree with a coach’s decision. The coach always wishes the best for the team and will only make choices based on the what is best for the group as a whole. If you get taken off, accept your coach’s hand and sit on the bench supporting your teammates.
7: No Showboating - There may be occasions when your team is much stronger than the opposition. This is the scene for many players to start showing off their skills. Such behavior greatly disrespects the other team and will not be tolerated by most coaches. Play the game the way it should be played and your talent will become apparent without the need for showing off.
8: No Cheating - The biggest problem with a ‘win at all costs mentality’ is the fact that kids will start to believe that cheating is an acceptable part of the game. You should always play within the rules because a victory ill-won is worse than an honest defeat.
9: Respect The Officials - An umpire or referee is not there to spoil the fun. Their role is to ensure that the game is played in good spirit and within the accepted rules. It is sad to see professional players berate officials after a call goes against them. Respect their judgment and be civil after the match, regardless of the outcome.
10: Enjoy Yourself - After all, it’s only a game. Children should never have excess pressure placed on them. Winning is always secondary to enjoyment. Players who genuinely love playing the game will always bounce back quicker after disappointments than those who treat it as a life or death scenario.
The term ‘sport’ is supposed to mean the enjoyment of a game. Learning how to be sportsmanlike takes the pressure off you, your coaches, your teammates and the officials. Good sportsmanship is also a life lesson that can greatly benefit those who practice it.
What do you do with your team to create a tradition of sportsmanship?